Woman Says Her Mom Refuses to Admit She Crossed a Major Line at Her Wedding, Worries She’ll Do It Again at Baby Shower

An expectant mother says her relationship with her mom has become strained after past boundary violations — and she’s worried the same issue will resurface at her upcoming baby shower.

The woman, who is six months pregnant with twins, shared her story on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum, explaining that she and her husband have made it clear they don’t want any uninvited guests at the event.

Her concern stems from what happened at her wedding. According to the post, the couple limited their guest list to 100 people due to venue restrictions, splitting invitations evenly between both families. Despite this, her mother invited a former high school friend the woman had only met twice.

The expectant mother said she made it clear the guest was not invited, but her mother failed to pass along the message. As a result, the woman showed up anyway — with a plus one.

Now planning her baby shower, the woman decided to address the issue head-on.

“I visited my parents and used the opportunity to set boundaries,” she wrote. “I told them that my husband and I went through the guest list together and that no one else could be invited.”

While her father agreed, her mother reacted defensively, insisting the wedding incident had been an “accident” and urging her daughter to move on.

The woman said she stood her ground, explaining she still had a right to be upset about what happened. That response only escalated the situation. Her mother told her she should feel “grateful” that her friends wanted to celebrate her milestones.

“She stormed off to her room and slammed the door,” the woman added, noting that they haven’t spoken since.

All she wants, she said, is a baby shower without unexpected guests. Unsure whether she was being unreasonable, she asked fellow Reddit users for their opinions.

Many commenters quickly reassured her that she wasn’t in the wrong.

Several emphasized that ignoring clearly stated boundaries — especially after a previous incident — was unacceptable. Others described the mother’s behavior as entitled and urged the woman to remain firm.

Some commenters went even further, suggesting consequences if the pattern continues, such as removing invitations or limiting access to future events. While acknowledging that such steps might feel harsh, they argued that consistent boundaries were the only way to prevent repeat behavior.

Overall, the response was clear: the expectant mother’s request was reasonable, and enforcing boundaries didn’t make her the villain.